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THE MARRIAGE X-RAY
“Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? Let him shew out a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom. But if you have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, and devilish. For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.” James3:13-18
GRACE speaks!
Hear what the law has for you:
“And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.” Leviticus 20:10
I gave a second chance to mankind, I brought repentance to him, and gave him the ability to faithfully serve THE MASTER; MY TEACHER, yet they said I am sinful. They prefer the law to I. Hear what the Law has to offer:
“If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the man, and the woman: so shall thou put away evil from Israel.” Deuteronomy 22:22
“Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou?”
MY reply to you is “He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.”
I ask you “…where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee?… Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.” John 8:5
Why do men of this world feel that I am wrong when I said that the only reason for a woman to be divorced is fornication; because I did not come to destroy but to give life and more of it? I am not a thief, for I am GRACE.
The TRUTH is what I present to you today. The law will always be thwarted by the false teachers to satisfy their greedy desires but GRACE can never be thwarted. The Pharisees and scribes just thwarted the law in John 8. The law original commanded that both the man and the woman involved in adultery should be put to death. What did they do? They brought only the woman in the scene and wanted Christ to support their greedy motives. Nobody has ever asked what actually happened to the man. All I hear them say is that I am wrong to have used divorce as a replacement for death according to the law. I have not come to kill but to give life.
“The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” John 10:10
Yet man still called me SIN because I said “…That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.”
The Law wanted you dead without a second chance to repent, but I came with divorce to enhance more chances of repentance, man has not seen the mercy I gave to the unfaithful couple in marriage.
Divorce is not a sin. It is the motive of initiating it that makes it a sin. When initiated rightfully is not a sin. Divorce is rightfully initiated when it has to do with treachery. The faithful partner decides to initiate divorce and this is not sinful. Sometimes treachery or gross treachery can be found in one or both couple lives and they may decide to go into divorce. Malachi 2:16 made it clear that dealing treacherously with your spouse should not be part of the standard of the kind of marriage that God is pleased with. Although if one initiates a wrongful divorce, for which the other spouse was not guilty of, but as a result of unlawful lust in the initiator’s life, divorce was put in place, such divorce is a sin on the part of the initiator because the motive behind it was greed as a result of lust.
Wrongful divorce is a forgivable sin. When the couple that initiates the divorce later genuinely recognized the error of his or her way and sincerely repents, he or she has the full assurance from God’s word that he or she will be forgiven.
“Wherefore I say unto you, All manner of sin and blasphemy shall be forgiven unto men: but the blasphemy against the Holy Ghost shall not be forgiven unto men.” Matthew 12:31
In Matthew 12:31, Jesus makes it clear that the only sin that is unpardonable is the sin of blasphemy against the Holy Spirit. No true Bible scholar will assert that divorce is the unpardonable sin as it is certain in marriage that feminine dominance is blasphemy.
Did you know that God abhorred blasphemy? Did you know that obedience is better than sacrifice as divorce is better than having a dominant wife that will make you continue in blasphemy? Did you know that God only hates divorce when there is no treachery?
“That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discrete, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their OWN HUSBANDS, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” Titus 2:4-5
It is funny that some local Christian leaders falsely and fearfully teach their members that they are angels, putting fear in the members’ lives especially the women, to respect them and obey them more than their own husbands. Whatever their pastors tell them is what they will do and not what their own husbands tell them.
The words of God prohibit believers from such behaviours, yet professing believers are involved in it because their local Christian leaders have taught them so. In fact, even if divorce is advantageous or not, a lot of local Christian leaders are the reason why divorce is on the high rate in Christendom because of their false teachings on marriage.
“BUT THERE were false prophets also among the people, even as there shall be false teachers among you, who privily shall bring in damnable heresies, even denying the Lord that bought them, and bring upon themselves swift destruction. And many shall follow their pernicious ways; by reason of whom the way of truth shall be evil spoken of. And through covetousness shall they with feigned words make MERCHANDISE of you: whose judgment now of a long time lingered not, and their damnation slumbereth not.” 2 Peter 2:1-3
Can a reasonable scholar say that a school management is wrong to have expelled her uncultured student whose learning lifestyle was a nuisance in the school; after series of advices and warnings, decided not to repent or positively change? Will any citizen ever say that the school has acted wrongly? Will you also say that the school management doesn’t love the student? Of course they love the student like every other bonafide student in the campus. The expulsion method is used to correct the expellee and bring him or her back to a cultured lifestyle as a student of that college.
The expellee (uncultured student) goes away shamefully because the news must have reached all ears, how will his parents see him, how will his friends see him, his department students? A lot of questions come into him as he leaves the campus shamefully. But the truth is, if the expellee really wants to repent, he will certainly repent as a result of the expulsion. He will then become a new person with societal cultured attitude that qualifies him an erudite student if he eventually returns back to the same school or another school. Glory be to God, expulsion method has been used to redirect the backsliding steps of the formally uncultured student.
The Biblical notorious son in one of the parables of Jesus Christ, the Christians of this era decided to call him the prodigal son because Jesus did not call him the prodigal son but the narrated parable alludes the name in the book of Luke.
“And he said, A certain man had two sons: And the younger of them said to his father, Father, give me the portion of goods that falleth to me. And he divided unto them his living. And not many days after the younger son gathered all together, and took his journey into a far country, and there wasted his substance with riotous living. And when he had spent all, there arose a mighty famine in that land; and he began to be in want. And he went and joined himself to a citizen of that country; and he sent him into his fields to feed swine. And he would fain have filled his belly with the husks that the swine did eat: and no man gave unto him. And when he came to himself, he said, How many hired servants of my father’s have bread enough and to spare, and I perish with hunger! I will arise and go to my father, and will say unto him, Father, I have sinned against heaven, and before thee…” Luke 15: 11-32
You must understand that the father actually agreed to his request of getting his portion, because of his uncultured behaviour at home. His father did not give him his portion because he demanded, his father gave him, so he can go away and see what the world outside entails. He was like a thorn on his father’s flesh and other family members. He was a complete nuisance in the home. He needed to go out there to learn from the pain out there since the comfort he gets from his father is not satisfactory. He was never a good son to his father as that could be read directly from the lips of his senior brother and his squandermania.
Did you know that not everything must be written directly in the Bible before you can explore it out from the same Bible? For instance, the Bible did not record that the son’s father actually instructed his son to live a better life but we can deduce from the narration that the father must have certainly given him fatherly training but he decided never to abide with because his senior brother was cultured and his father was also defined as being compassionate.
Although, the father did not initiate the action of sending him out, the son did himself but he gave his consent for him to go and learn how to repent of his uncultured way.
A lot of marriages are faced with such passive divorce that might eventually become active in future if there is no repentance. Some wives have used their own hands to take themselves and their belongings out from their husbands’ home because they have probably seen something glittering outside the home. Remember! “Not all that glitter is gold”
It was the same thing the prodigal son did, taking his belongings out from his loving father’s house because he probably feels that he is not getting the maximum enjoyment in the house.
Maybe you have not heard of such cases in marriage, but believe the words of God; we are in the end time, where the love of many will wax cold in the things of God and they will give in more effort in loving the things of the world, enjoyment, fame, wealth, etc. In one of the teachings of Jesus in Matthew, he mentioned such quality.
“And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.” Matthew 24:12
A lot of couple are pursuing worldly things, some may later repent and come back prodigally to their husbands after testing the pleasure in the world and discovering that the pleasure is not fun but pain; some may come back with a kind of health that has deteriorated, some may come back to meet their husbands with new wives, some may come back to meet the graves of their husbands as a result of the shocking trauma they went through after the pursuit of materialism and some may end up dying in the process, never to come back alive.
Will any one condemn the man who remarried because his wife left him for the pursuit of wealth, fame, pleasure as a result of her unlawful lust?
The Church is practical! Moses gave the people of Israel the marital laws in his time base on God’s directives as a way of trying to answer the questions that borders the people Israel regarding marriage. Jesus came in Matthew 5:32, established his response on issues of marriage base on Mosaic marital laws and finally gave them the answer to clear the troubles in their heart regarding marriage, by given them the answer that will provide chances of repentance to those that commit fornication in their marriages to prevent the occurrence of adultery, probably because some of them that asked him the question are also tired of such a law that demands instant divorce and stoning to dead without mercy.
The answer apostle Paul gave in 1Corinthians 7 was first based on the direct teachings of Jesus, before Paul through Rhema (inspiration) then added how it should be handled, because it disturbs the hearts of the believers in his time and they needed answers to help manage their marriage, since there were once unbelievers and now believers after receiving the words of God for salvation, those whose partners choose not to follow the ways of Christ might probably be against the other partners and this became a challenge in the local church, so Paul gave them the answer his era deserves inspirationally.
What sayest thou, in this your era through God’s inspiration? Don’t drop this book you are holding now. Remember, the principle of marriage is founded in:
God the Father: Abraham and Moses + God the Son: Paul. The FAMSP principle.
The Law and Grace are what keep marriage. The Law is static while Grace is dynamic. The Law is overwhelmed with a kind of potential energy while Grace Flow with the kinetic energy. It is the kinematic potentials of grace that has given birth to the book “THE MARRIAGE X-RAY” in your hand.
Remember, when a father tells his notorious child, “I have disowned you” or “leave my house and don’t come back”, he has said these words not because he actually hated his own child. What he hated was the uncultured attitude inculcated by his child. So, whatever measure he decides to use, is to bring the uncultured child back to normality. He understands that his child is treading the wrong path of life, his child is dying and the child is not responding to moral treatments, so the hopeful method to apply to help him realize his uncultured attitude is to disown him or send him out of the house. This method could be primitive but it works, if the uncultured child is willing to live a better life but finds it difficult to overcome lust. The primary aim of the method used by the father is to bring back his child to the right path of sonship.
This is the primary aim of divorce, to recall and reconcile the unfaithful partner in marriage. Don’t stop studying “THE MARRIAGE X-RAY”.
